by Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D.*
Goal setting seems to be a perennially hot topic! Could it be that
you hear and read about it so often because its a subject that is
easy to know about and difficult to practice?
It would be very surprising to find an adult in the work force who
has not heard about goal setting. A Harvard study of its graduates
over 30 years found that only a small percentage (3 pecent) of them
actually wrote down their goals -- and these were the most successful!
You can be certain that every one of those students had repeatedly
heard the value of goal setting. Yet only 3 percent actually wrote
down their goals consistently. Imagine what you can do if you both
write down your goals and, then, focus on them every day, every week,
until they are accomplished!
What is it the causes the "New Year's Resolution Syndrome?" You
probably know the one. People make resolutions, work hard at them for
a few weeks, maybe even a few months, and then forget them. Next
year, they make the same New Year's Resolutions. It is a
self-defeating and self-sabotaging syndrome. So, why do so many
people do it?
They may be making goals that are too global, too extensive, too
unrealistic for the time frame, body type or current finances. That
is not to say that they are not worthy goals. They need to be broken
apart into smaller, more specific, attainable pieces. The elephant
analogy is still the best one I know of to illustrate good goal
setting. You probably know it. "How do you eat an elephant? One
spoonful at a time." So it is with goals. Make spoon size goals and
accomplish them. One you've mastered those, get a bigger spoon!
You may have too many people in your life who consciously or
subconsciously are unwilling or unable to support you to reach your
goals. Everyone has a "personal tribe," their friends, families,
colleagues. You have created agreement among your tribe members that
you are a certain way, or you do certain things. They are comfortable
with you as long as you are and do those things. They may even be
enthusiastic about your desire to change something or accomplish
something new. Just know that, as you change and accomplish, they may
not like it. They may even go so far as to put you down in small ways
or make light of your accomplishments. Do you know why? It is usually
because your changes remind them, on some levels, that they could be
doing it, too...and they aren't!
Surround yourself with people who want you to have what you want for
yourself. Be mutually supportive and you'll all achieve your highest
goals.
You may have filled your schedule with so many things that there is
little room for your goals to grow. We must be careful not to confuse
busyness with progress. Be selective about how you use your time and
what you focus on. Success often comes when you know what to leave
out, rather than what to include in your life. Notice, too, how much
time you spend on trivia. It has a nasty way of taking your attention
from what you say you want to focus on, doesn't it? Have you ever
just "had" to clean your office before you could begin your project?
Then you know how this works!
Goal setting is like the pig and chicken who were out for a walk in
town early one morning. The chicken became really excited when she
saw a sign that said "Ham & Eggs, $2.99." She said to the pig, "Look,
we've got double billing again." The pig grunted and said, "That's
all right for you to say. For you, it's all in a day's work. For me,
it's total commitment." Goal setting is all in a day's work. Goal
achievement is total commitment.
Questions about some of the terminology used in this article? Get more information (definitions and links) on key college, career, and job-search
terms by going to our Job-Seeker's Glossary of Job-Hunting Terms.
Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D., is a motivational keynote
speaker, corporate team builder and executive coach from San Diego, CA.
She is the creator of The Consociate Way™: Promoting Performance & Peace
in Your Workplace.
Register today for Rhoberta's new Teleseminar and Coaching program: GOAL
GETTING: MOVING FROM RESOLUTIONS TO RESULTS - a 12 week program to help
you stick to your path and achieve success! Click on "Teleseminars" at
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Call her at SPEAKING ABOUT WORK, 1.877.728.6464 or email at
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