by Liz Sumner, Life Coach
Makeovers are part of our mythology -- the ugly duckling becomes a swan, the
scullery maid goes to the ball and dazzles the prince. My eyes are always
drawn to before-and-after pictures, and I bet a lot of us share a secret
desire to be the chosen Cinderella.
Why are makeovers so compelling? Perhaps it's because you get to become a
whole new person. It's an evolutionary leap. An instant transformation.
Poof, you're someone more fabulous.
We can be our own fairy godmothers with the same life-changing results using
the four essential principles of successful makeovers.
1. The Harsh Light of Day
You can always see every pore and blemish in a "Before" picture. Nothing is
hidden from view. So apply that to your life. Do an honest appraisal of your
current reality. What's working well? What's broken, doesn't suit you, or
leftover from a previous life? What do you like and want to keep? What
values are honored or ignored in the way your life looks today? Be ruthless
but fair. Don't throw out aspects that are important you. Maybe they just
need to be updated, not discarded.
2. Bigger, Brighter, Bolder
"After" pictures are striking because the new look is more vibrant. The
colors are more intense. The individual is willing to call attention to
herself. Why are so many of us shy about doing that?
Pretend you're an encouraging friend, one who sees your hidden fabulousness
and loudly says "You go girl!" Then imagine all the aspects of your ultimate
dream as bigger, brighter, and bolder than ever. Turn the dial up a couple
of clicks more than you think you can stand. That's the way your friend sees
you. Now capture that vision and explore the emotions that come up for you.
What's keeping you from being your Technicolor self?
3. Attention
What you don't see in the magazines is the maintenance required to keep up
the new you. Just as the woman in the picture will have to touch up her hair
and pluck her eyebrows now and then, you will need to continue to hold
yourself as the bigger, brighter you. See it, feel it, taste it. Pay
attention and notice your changes. The creative tension between your vision
and your current state will pull you to your goal.
4. Reflection in the Mirror
Finally, you need a way to see yourself. How will you know that you're
transformed? Pick some ways to measure your success -- honest feedback from
your friends and family, acknowledgement from your boss, a certain number of
hours per week devoted to creative pursuits or peace and quiet. It's at this
critical point where many change efforts break down. What gets measured gets
accomplished. You need ways to see your accomplishments.
"After" people get what they want. They inspire Wows. And those of us who
waved our own wand have the advantage because we aren't dependent on some
team from Hollywood. We know how to do it ourselves.
Questions about some of the terminology used in this article? Get more information (definitions and links) on key college, career, and job-search
terms by going to our Job-Seeker's Glossary of Job-Hunting Terms.
Liz Sumner is a Life
Coach who works with people ready for powerful change and enormous success.
For a complimentary coaching session and support for your own inner
self-makeover write to easumner@monad.net.
